How Mediation Works With Children
Disputes between parents can become significantly less traumatic for children when mediation takes place. There are also a number of ways that children can be protected from the stress of coping with their parents divorce. Children shouldn’t be pressurised into taking sides, i.e. who they would prefer to live with. A child also shouldn’t have to witness arguments, which, in some cases, a child may think is down to them, and consequently that they are a major contributing factor to the divorce.
Children will realise that there are obvious problems with the relationship, but at least if there is civility between both parties, then a child will be more relaxed about a divorce. Making it clear to children also, that you both still love them as much as ever, can help to remove any element of uncertainty in their minds. There should be honesty between both parents and children, and they should be made aware of developments. There shouldn’t be instances of one parent blaming the other when talking to children about the divorce. Mediation will not only be beneficial to parents in terms of being less stressful than a drawn out, bitter and possibly costly divorce, but it will also be beneficial to the affected children, too.
Mediation can help children avoid the distress of witnessing two people they love arguing. A divorce will be difficult enough for a child, but at least mediation can help to convince them that the parting of the waves is amicable.